Healing with love

If you experienced any kind of trauma as a child, and if you yourself become a parent after the essential inner work has at least been started, you quickly discover that there is this almost miraculous kind of healing that can take place in the most ordinary of daily circumstances, and even more profoundly in the more pivotal ones, just by going about your normal life.

Suddenly, and almost completely, certain traumatic memories can be washed clean, simply because a similar circumstance came along where you were able to make the choices, to see the moment, to do the things in a better way. Without thought or intent, fully focused only on them and what they need, you suddenly find that you have been given this extraordinary gift as well.

Somehow, it’s as if those experiences have been fundamentally changed. The memory is still there, but somehow the pain is not. It’s like having a nightmare, waking up briefly, and then going back to sleep to dream the whole thing in a better way so when you wake up in the morning you’re not scared anymore.

What a beautiful and unexpected side note to the already profoundly joyful and beautiful and humbling and honored experience of motherhood. It’s like the icing on the cake that I never even knew to anticipate.

Thank you to the universe for blessing me with the responsibility of guiding him as he finds his own way. And thank you for guiding me so that I have the tools to do it the best way I can. Thank you to all of the friends, all of the pages, all of the messages on the wind and calming tunes of the waves, to all of the nudges and pointers, and even to the stumbling stones that taught me things.

Thank you to the universe for the gifts of healing along the way that have blessed me with the chance to be a cycle breaker, a pattern disrupter, a lie destroyer, a healer, all while getting to love, and nurture, and invest, and give back.

Thank YOU, my friends, who have also done your own work, who have told your own stories, and who are healers too – through your daily lives changing the very reality that we live in. One smile, one post, one comment or gift or conversation or piece of art at a time. One moment at a time.

You too are breaking chains and stopping cycles and healing the world just by doing the work and then living your everyday life.

Eternally grateful for all of it and for all of you 💗

Cristen Writes